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The gist of the article is that, while the blogger doesn’t really like to set goals, it is accepted as important. So, do you set goals? Do you do it like this person…laying out objectives for each academic area (reading , writing, math, etc.). Even to not have a goal is to have one, so really, kudos to anyone admitting it and thinking about it.
If your child is in school, it is much the same in that there are goals and objectives for each class, each semester, each year. Sometimes, though, we don’t think about the goal behind the goal.
So, what is your goal with homeschooling? Is it to get your child ready for high school? Is it to get your child ready for college? Is it to get your child to know enough to get a job?
Each of these goals (you might call them purposes) will dictate certain things to you as to standards and curricula. So, how about something more strategic? Our goal is to prepare our child (children) for life.
The Lybrands answered this goal by having a single focus: We want to teach our children to learn how to learn. Praise the Lord…it is starting to pay off. It is fascinating to watch our kid interact with peers in college and work. They are actually now commenting how neat it is to just know how to dig in and teach themselves something new. Do you look up words for your kids when they ask? We didn’t.
Do you show them how to do math? We didn’t. Do you help them figure out what to write? We didn’t. I don’t think we were cruel…we just asked them to explain math, or look up their own words, or play around in their mind until they found something they wanted to write about. Honestly, you have your own right to your own goals…all I am saying is to choose it carefully.
I’d love to hear your thoughts on this.
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THE EASIEST WAY TO DAMAGE YOUR CHILD FOR LIFE (WEBINAR)
Telling a child, "You are stupid," is truly horrible.
But, telling a child, "You are smart," can be really (really) bad as well.
I'll explain why Wednesday at 4:00PM (Central Standard Time)
There is definitely something even more important than the basics…that is, there is one thing that will have as marked an impact on how educated (and articulate) a person will be.
I’m a big fan of the basics, so I’m not saying scratch them…but your student will get so much less without this strategy included in his world.
I can look at my own life, and with all the ways my dad may have failed me (in theory), he succeeded gloriously here. Also, I think all the kids would admit we did OK on this one too!
I hope this spurs you on to add this as an intentional part of your parenting and education.
Apparently over 50% of kids who come to college with faith, lose it by the time they leave.
A new book (I haven’t read…but I like their references) tries to counter this trend. Here’s the interview:
Another option is an their hour long interview
In the video above, the number one factor is getting the kids to over-lap in worship and relationship with older (all) generations…hmmm.
I know we have technically done this by homeschooling and talking A LOT as a family about the Bible, our faith, and how to think straight…keeping the generational thing included in many areas.
The other thing we did comes right out of my book, GLAEN (http://www.glaen.com ).
Before a Lybrand leaves for college, we ask them what the most important key to their success in college, both spiritually and practically, will be.
The have the answer down pat now:
We’ve found that you really do become like the people you are with…smarter, dumber, wilder, happier…etc. It comes out of 1 Corinthians 15:33.
I guess there results say that if you don’t hang around mature adults then you won’t be like them. 🙂
What kinds of things have you tried / are you trying to get them read?
I’m pretty sure we don’t often think clearly, which is why we should be laboring to teach our kids logic.
Of course, logic is all about making sense of things. Yesterday I ran across this article on the separation of church and state.
It was written by an atheist (who, I think, has English as a second language). He also has a nazi emblem…don’t know what all that means…just trying to learn.
Nonetheless, the thought was really nice (I didn’t read many of the comments)…essentially he is saying that imposing the absence of religious symbols is the imposition of Atheism.
I think it’s a nice point.
Why not talk this through as a family and see what you can learn?
I picked up the following comment from a forum related to a homeschool curriculum we use.
If you skip to the bottom (my response), you see a simple reason to start writing BEFORE studying grammar.
My son is almost 12, and was a reluctant writer until he did Fred Lybrand’s Writing Course.
He used to do anything to avoid putting pencil on paper.
We went through the Writing Course back in August/September.
It’s November, and my son just finished writing his first novel of 28 chapters.
He’s about to start the “Make it Better” step by going back over it, and putting it into the computer.
He’s also thinking about splitting the chapters right in the middle of the action,
so that his reader won’t be able to put it down (like so many of the books he’s read).
He spends about 20-30 minutes per day writing, without any coaxing or interference from me.
I can hardly believe it. Thanks to Dr. Lybrand.
At this point, I’m not pushing him to do any more than that 20-30 minutes because he is now doing it because he wants to. As he gains confidence in his writing ability, I may push him along, but I’m hopeful that he’ll do it of his own accord. I just don’t want him to
go back to hating to write, which could happen if I push.
Along with “The Writing Course”, we also received “The Essay Course”,
which Fred recommends that we do at age 13-14 I think. Until then, I feel that we’re on a good track for now, letting him write about whatever he wants for 20-30 minutes per day.
“The Essay Course” will get him ready for college, when that time comes.
I feel like I can relax, and just let him blossom as a writer on his own terms for the time being.
Thanks Fred & Jody!
Thanks so much for all your kinds words. Your son is not an exception with our course, but he certainly is on the path to being exceptional!
The problem most of us have with writing and helping our kids write is that we have been taught by the schools to work backwards.
Far better to write and then learn grammar (if you must ;-)…just like we do with talking.
Recently, I was speaking with a friend who is a musician. It struck me in the conversation how foolish it would be to make children learn Music Theory before they ever pick up an instrument.
This is the exact mistake we make (and a few others)— We try to teach them Language (Grammar) Theory before we really let them just learn to make a little music first!
Again, thanks for sharing how we’ve helped a little.
Fred (and Jody) Lybrand
But what I really want to tell you is why I am so interested in teaching writing. I mean today – I guess you’d call me a successful author; eight of my books have been published and many of them have done quite well. I’ve have five children who were homeschooled; three of them collectively have written eight books. And, even the two which haven’t written any books have had their essays used as models for other classes in while in college. That is today. BUT IT WASN’T ALWAYS LIKE THAT…
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Recently I listened to the biography about Steve Jobs where he made an observation about ‘sales’ for us to chew on, “People don’t know what they want until you show it to them.”
I think he is on to something. How much more our kids? Why not compile a list of ‘possibilities’ for the summer…no one says you can or should do them all. Sitting around bored or undirected is just a matter of no planning (at all).
Here’s a starter kit/example from an article online:
….the rest of the list is here: 64 Things to do with Your Kids this Summer
EVEN BETTER (as a Quick List): 100 THINGS TO DO THIS SUMMER
Now, I’ll throw in another possibility: Start a blog and have the kids practice writing (or helping you phrase things as you write) describing your own list and activities and how it went / what you all discovered…this will keep them in shape for school with words and language (for help… The Writing Course ;-). Blogs are really easy and you can post your links in Facebook or send them to friends / family by email. No need for perfection…just get started. Blogger.com or WordPress or Tumblr should do the trick (always use discernment with your own family standards).
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