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Episode 103: Easy Parenting Mindset

In this episode, I want to talk about why parenting is often not that easy. This is probably a different way to think for most people. And yet, whatever your experience of parenting is, it can get better.

In this episode, you will learn:

  1.  Why parenting is often not that easy
  2.  How to make parenting much easier

Resources:

  1. The Only 2 Reasons a Teenager Rebels
  2. Why Having a Best Friend is a Bad Idea!
  3. Free Mini Writing Course

 

 

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The Anything Game: How to Connect as a Family at Meals

A lot of us don't eat meals together as a family, and even when we do, we often don't know what to talk about. Here's a simple game we used to connect our kids with our growing up lives... we call it "The Anything Game."

Off to learn,

Fred Ray Lybrand

I’d love to hear your comments or answer your questions

Want to Raise a Truth-Seeker? Aim to Have No Opinions!

Your child is growing up in a world of liars. It is mind-numbing how many people in the media and online are simply twisting the truth. It gets even worse around elections and wars. How do you help your students discern the truth AND love it as well?

It may seem a bit odd, but I have a personal aim of having no opinions and worked to instill this path in our kids. Of course, I can’t help it, I do have opinions (and lots of them); but I know of nothing that helps me more in the relentless pursuit of the truth than this approach.

Now, before you go haywire, understand that I’m a Bible-believing Christian who has been in the hot pursuit of truth for around 4 decades. Frankly, I don’t think the Bible is a book of opinions…instead, I’d say it’s a book of facts. If God wrote it, and He is right, then ‘facts’ is the right word.

Facts deal with what is true and what matches reality.
Opinions are about viewpoints not necessarily based on facts or knowledge.

The problem arises when we form an opinion and ARGUE about it like it’s a fact. I can tell you as one with a doctorate in Applied Theology, lots of my peers spend endless amounts of time and energy arguing their theories (theologies) as though they are facts.

When we learn to separate the two, we can start using amazing phrases like, “I could be wrong,” and “I don’t know, but I’d guess…” This adds humility and clarity to our lives because we aren’t over-dominating the communication. We also get better at pointing out facts, which people really have to (usually) agree with!

So, in parenting and education, my recommendation is to help establish this distinction so we can tone down the conflict and tune in to the truth. The opinions we have could have a good basis in logic and evidence, but until we KNOW…shouldn’t we just admit it’s our best guess for now as we seek the truth.

Frankly, this is the subtle side of John 8 where Jesus declares, “Know the truth, and the truth shall set you free.” It is freeing to me to know The Truth and lots of the facts on earth that are true.

Off to learn,

Dr. Fred Ray Lybrand

Why Your Kid Might Not Respond to Your Good—or Bad—Parenting

httpv://youtu.be/Pu4lRmwjLJA

So, I saw this article title and said to myself, “Free Will.”

Clearly I’m wrong.  You see, everything is about your genes…you are a victim (even if it turns out to be a blessing).  If your genes tell you to be depressed, a bad kid, or a good parent…you will obey.

I’m sure they don’t mean it…but won’t we be seeing legal defenses built around genes?  Hey, it’s not your fault that you are a murderer or a thief…it’s just gene hp781r13…etc.

Here’s the article:

Why Your Kid Might Not Respond to Your Good—or Bad—Parenting

Scientists have a discovered a gene that they believe allows some kids to shake off abusive or neglectful parents to become happy adults. Read more: Why Your Kid Might Not Respond to Your Good—or Bad—Parenting

Now, here’s my thought:

Our genetics are more of a ‘temptation’ than a command.  If we discover an ‘alcoholism gene’, it still doesn’t excuse destroying lives.  This notion is going to destroy a lot of lives. 

Human beings are still ‘plastic’ (as they say).  I was born (genetically) as a left-handed person, but I write, throw, golf, drive, and cut my food with my right hand.  How can that be?  Well, my parents ‘changed me over’ because the experts of the day told them to…my life would be better.  Of course, I lucked out to have parents who had the gene to ignore my genetics (or was it the gene to obey experts?).

At any rate, we need to stay awake and stay sane in the midst of the violent sea of science, psuedo-science, opinion, experts, and experimentation. 

Our children can still be shaped and they can still rebel…genes are just another factor in the mix.  Genes are not the Master.

Thoughts?

 

Fred Lybrand

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