Parenting Teenagers is a trial of mythic proportions, true?

Really, isn’t parenting teenagers just a matter of building on the parenting you’ve already done while you thought of your children as “children?”  Sometimes it really is hard to see, but when you parent day-in and day-out, you don’t notice how all the parenting opportunities come together for a total effect.

One of my mentors was a dear fellow named Marlin Howe (he wrote the forward for The Absolute Quickest Way to Help Your Child Change) who has passed on to the next life.  Marlin was fond of saying that the teen years were a second chance for anyone trying to parent teenagers well.

Here’s the basic thought:


Parenting Teenagers: Teen Years are a Parent’s Second Chance

So, there you go.  Try to re-frame how you are thinking about the challenges of parenting your teenager.  You have another chance as that teen is still in the process of maturing.  More than anything I’d stress a couple of points to remember as the parent of a teenager:

    1. Your marriage relationship is the greatest influence you have on your teen
    2. Telling your teen what EXACTLY you expect will solve 75% of your struggles

Of course, honesty and telling the truth between parents and teenagers is crucial, but that will need to be another article 🙂



Fred Lybrand

P.S.  If you found this helpful, you might also like this article on  Children Becoming ‘Addicted’ to Computers



Dr. Lybrand and his wife (Jody) of 40 years homeschooled their 5 children from birth to college, where they all excelled in academics and community (University of Texas & Abilene Christian). Dr. & Mrs. Lybrand have combined degrees of 2 BA's, 2 Masters, and 1 Doctorate), Fred and Jody have stuck with their faith and their obsession with practical learning. As a result, the overall theme of "Teaching Them to Learn How to Learn" invades everything they offer. Dr. Lybrand pastored for 25 years and currently coaches, consults, and trains leaders in businesses, churches, and non-profits. Among his client list are the U.S. Air Force, CRU, Be Broken, Continental Resources, State Farm Insurance, and Pioneer Natural Resources. Of course, one of his favorite interests is helping homeschoolers excel, and he does so with the 10 Courses of The Independent Homeschooer Curriculum & directly mentoring parents who belong to the tribe. Dr. Fred Ray Lybrand Jr.

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